SOME PHILOSOPHY OF MINE
something just appeared in my mind, forming links of links to it... let me gather myself for i'm lost in my thoughts, tangled together.
i was having a conversation with him when he mentioned about his buddy telling him stuffs of his buddy's friend.
okay, im sick of using the noun "buddy", so let's just call that buddy, A.
A told him her friend's stuffs which her friend had confided in her.
i thought to myself, does A even respect her friend? is A actually abusing her friend's trust in her when her friend told her? if so, then what is respect? does its value need to be conserved? or even its definite meaning from any dictionary? well, i checked the online dictionary and got this...
re spect [ri-spekt]
-noun
1. a particular, detail, or point (usually prec. by in): to differ in some respect.
2. relation or reference: inquiries with respect to a route.
3. esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgment.
4. deference to a right, privilege, privileged position, or someone or something considered to have certain rights or privileges; proper acceptance or courtesy; acknowledgment: respect for a suspect's right to counsel; to show respect for the flag; respect for the elderly.
5. the condition of being esteemed or honored: to be held in respect.
6. respects, a formal expression or gesture of greeting, esteem, or friendship: Give my respects to your parents.
7. favor or partiality.
8. Archaic. a consideration.
-verb (used with object)
9. to hold in esteem or honor: I cannot respect a cheat.
10. to show regard or consideration for: to respect someone's rights.
11. to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person's privacy.
12. to relate or have reference to.
there are many meanings of respect, however i had highlighted these bold maroon which carries the same meaning. well, im trying to show that A didnt acknowledge her friend's privacy rights when A spilled out her friend's stuffs to him.
from that incident, i was feeling so damn vexed because i was enlightened by the fact that we humans can actually deceive ourselves when we either say or promise that we can be good confidants to others. just what is respect in our human brains? are we actually horrible monsters who doesnt realise how others would feel if we were to spill their stuffs to others, while going around enjoying sharing others' stuffs with others?
through it was not my stuff, but A's friend's stuff, it is only right that i shouldnt get so excited over it. however i couldnt help feeling so pissed off with A when i put myself in A's friend's shoes! if i ever tell my own stuffs to a person who i trust, just to discover she had betrayed my trust in her, it would be so damn pissfying for me to contain it.
and i wont deny that im unlike a saint who practises respect. i do commit the same mistake.
it was only today that i realised that how terribly bad it can be if you ever find out one day that other humans know of your secrets and stuffs just because you told one human who you trusted the most. this is where there are links of links of links, as good as endless connections!
well, yes, just as you can guess it, im feeling so turned off.
why?
because he told me that it's all about being open and its common to tell others stuffs of others nowadays.
yes, i know, i know!
but!
it's but one thing to be extremely open about it, the other thing is but to show respect!
they are two different matters, being open to the extreme doesnt mean disregarding the respect for that person.
however he didnt seem to get my point...
oh well.
forget it man, i just realised that it's pointless carrying on a conversation with him who failed to grasp the essence of my emphsised words. perhaps, some of you would not agree with me and agree with him, thinking "what's the big deal about that" and so on...whatever so on as you define it.
i had just voiced out my stand clearly and that's what matters to me.
the rest is definitely up to you to decide.
i was having a conversation with him when he mentioned about his buddy telling him stuffs of his buddy's friend.
okay, im sick of using the noun "buddy", so let's just call that buddy, A.
A told him her friend's stuffs which her friend had confided in her.
i thought to myself, does A even respect her friend? is A actually abusing her friend's trust in her when her friend told her? if so, then what is respect? does its value need to be conserved? or even its definite meaning from any dictionary? well, i checked the online dictionary and got this...
re spect [ri-spekt]
-noun
1. a particular, detail, or point (usually prec. by in): to differ in some respect.
2. relation or reference: inquiries with respect to a route.
3. esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgment.
4. deference to a right, privilege, privileged position, or someone or something considered to have certain rights or privileges; proper acceptance or courtesy; acknowledgment: respect for a suspect's right to counsel; to show respect for the flag; respect for the elderly.
5. the condition of being esteemed or honored: to be held in respect.
6. respects, a formal expression or gesture of greeting, esteem, or friendship: Give my respects to your parents.
7. favor or partiality.
8. Archaic. a consideration.
-verb (used with object)
9. to hold in esteem or honor: I cannot respect a cheat.
10. to show regard or consideration for: to respect someone's rights.
11. to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person's privacy.
12. to relate or have reference to.
there are many meanings of respect, however i had highlighted these bold maroon which carries the same meaning. well, im trying to show that A didnt acknowledge her friend's privacy rights when A spilled out her friend's stuffs to him.
from that incident, i was feeling so damn vexed because i was enlightened by the fact that we humans can actually deceive ourselves when we either say or promise that we can be good confidants to others. just what is respect in our human brains? are we actually horrible monsters who doesnt realise how others would feel if we were to spill their stuffs to others, while going around enjoying sharing others' stuffs with others?
through it was not my stuff, but A's friend's stuff, it is only right that i shouldnt get so excited over it. however i couldnt help feeling so pissed off with A when i put myself in A's friend's shoes! if i ever tell my own stuffs to a person who i trust, just to discover she had betrayed my trust in her, it would be so damn pissfying for me to contain it.
and i wont deny that im unlike a saint who practises respect. i do commit the same mistake.
it was only today that i realised that how terribly bad it can be if you ever find out one day that other humans know of your secrets and stuffs just because you told one human who you trusted the most. this is where there are links of links of links, as good as endless connections!
well, yes, just as you can guess it, im feeling so turned off.
why?
because he told me that it's all about being open and its common to tell others stuffs of others nowadays.
yes, i know, i know!
but!
it's but one thing to be extremely open about it, the other thing is but to show respect!
they are two different matters, being open to the extreme doesnt mean disregarding the respect for that person.
however he didnt seem to get my point...
oh well.
forget it man, i just realised that it's pointless carrying on a conversation with him who failed to grasp the essence of my emphsised words. perhaps, some of you would not agree with me and agree with him, thinking "what's the big deal about that" and so on...whatever so on as you define it.
i had just voiced out my stand clearly and that's what matters to me.
the rest is definitely up to you to decide.
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